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Money, Marriage, and Communication – Ramsey

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STUDY SUMMARY

  • Money is the number one issue married couples argue about.
  • 86% of couples who got married in the last five years started out in debt.
  • The higher a couple’s debt burden, the more likely they are to argue about money.
  • Couples in healthy marriages are much more likely to talk about their money dreams and make long-term money goals.

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Money, Marriage, and Communication: What New Research Reveals

If you and your spouse argue over money, you’re not alone. It’s the number one issue married couples fight about. In fact, money fights are the second leading cause of divorce, behind infidelity.

In late 2017, Ramsey Solutions conducted a study of more than 1,000 U.S. adults to gain understanding of personal finance behaviors and attitudes, as well as how married couples communicate and relate about money.

So, why are couples fighting about money so much?

A peek into their bank accounts may provide an answer.

Debt Is Crippling Marriages

Couples who fight about money have roughly $30,000 in consumer debt on average, with nearly two-thirds (63%) of all marriages starting off in the red. That debt load is having a negative impact on marriages, regardless of household income. Forty-one percent (41%) of couples who have consumer debt say they argue about money—and it’s what they argue about the most. In comparison, only 25% of couples who are debt-free say they argue about money. Plus, money doesn’t even make the top-five list of things debt-free couples argue about.

Bringing debt into marriage is trending upward over time, with younger generations having much more debt than the generations that came before them. Forty-three percent (43%) of couples married more than 25 years started off in debt, while 86% of couples married five years or less started off in the red—twice the number of their older counterparts.

Not only that, but more couples in the younger generations accumulated debt to pay for their wedding than older generations. Forty-one percent (41%) of those married five years or less say they felt pressured to spend more than they could afford on their wedding. Over half (54%) of couples married five years or less say some of their wedding expenses were covered with a credit card—and 73% of those couples say they regret that decision.

“Couples who are just starting out need the best foundation possible if they’re going to have a strong, long-lasting marriage. Unfortunately, debt keeps couples in the past and prevents them from focusing on their futures,” said Rachel Cruze, #1 New York Times best-selling author and personal finance expert.

“When a husband and wife can eliminate debt, a shift happens in their marriage. There’s a peace of mind they haven’t experienced before.”

More Debt, More Fighting

The larger a couple’s debt, the more likely they were to say money is one of the top issues they fight about. Almost half (48%) of couples with $50,000 or more in consumer debt say money is a top reason for arguments. And those with $50,000 or more in debt were three times more likely than couples with less than $10,000 in debt to say the tone of their money conversations is negative.

Americans who say money is the top issue they fight about with their spouse

Debt is not the only financial pain point for couples. One-third of people who say they argued with their spouse about money say they hid a purchase from their spouse because they knew their partner would not approve.

1 in 3 of those who argue with their spouse about money have hidden a purchase from their spouse.

“Financial infidelity is more prevalent than people think,” said Cruze.

“When a spouse hides purchases from their partner, it breaks down the trust in their relationship. Couples need to understand their money differences, like who’s the spender and who’s the saver, so they can be on the same page with their finances.”

Common Goals and Planning Together Make a Difference

Topics like money goals and dreams are important discussion points for spouses to talk about. Couples in healthier, happier marriages are more likely to have those bigger, important conversations about money. Eighty-seven percent (87%) of respondents who say their marriage is “great” also say they and their spouse work together to set long-term goals for their money, compared to 41% of respondents who say their marriage is “okay” or “in crisis.” Additionally, 94% of those with “great” marriages discuss their money dreams together, compared to only 45% of those who say their marriage is “okay” or “in crisis.”

Couples in healthy marriages are twice as likely to discuss money dreams together

Ongoing conversations about money seem to matter as well. Those who say they have a “great” marriage are almost twice as likely to talk about money daily or weekly compared to those who say their marriage is “okay” or “in crisis.”

Couples in healthy marriages talk about money more.

“Couples who take a team approach to their finances are more likely to achieve their goals. Doing a monthly budget together and talking about it regularly are the first steps in making that a reality. These budget meetings open the door to more meaningful conversations about their dreams,” said Cruze.

Emotions Are Barriers to Communication

Emotions surrounding money—especially debt—may be one of the barriers between spouses when it comes to talking about their finances. Almost half (47%) of respondents with consumer debt say their level of debt creates stress and anxiety. Sixty percent (60%) of those with consumer debt say they worry about finances monthly, and one in four say they worry about finances every day.

Respondents are also anxious about talking about their personal finances, especially if they carry a higher debt load. Sixty-three percent (63%) of those with $50,000 or more in debt feel anxious about talking about their personal finances. Comparatively, 41% of those who have less than $10,000 in debt have that same anxiety.

Not only is debt causing anxiety, but it’s also causing embarrassment. Forty-three percent (43%) of respondents with $50,000 or more in debt feel embarrassed about talking about personal finances compared to only 10% of those who are debt-free.

“Holding on to the emotions that come with debt will cripple you and keep you from improving your money situation,” said Cruze. “Yes, facing the past can be embarrassing, but acknowledging the problem is the first step in winning with money.”

Conclusion: Healthy Money Conversations, Healthy Marriages

There is hope for couples who want to work on better communication around money. When couples get on the same page—through talking regularly, making money goals, and discussing dreams together—they build a strong foundation for their relationship. Working with each other (instead of against) reduces anxiety and fosters healthier relationships.

“Talking about money is often more valuable than the money itself,” Cruze said.

About the Study

The State of Finances in the American Household is a research study conducted with 1,072 U.S. adults to gain an understanding of personal finance behaviors and attitudes, and how money impacts relationships. Attitudinal-based statistics include only those with an opinion on the topic. The nationally representative sample was fielded November 29, 2017, to December 5, 2017, using a third-party research panel.

Consumer debt defined in this study as types of debt including: credit card debt, student loans, car loans, medical debt, home equity loans, 401(k) loans, and tax debt.

Debt-free defined in this study does not include mortgage debt.

 

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